You know how they say that when you’re meant for that one person, the whole universe conspires just for you to cross paths? I never believed in that, but I do now.
My fiancee and I met on Tumblr, on a Tuesday, the 9th of October 2012 specifically. It was one of the most stressful days of my life. Practically late and rushing to do requirements, I was about to leave the house already when I noticed that tiny red blimp above my inbox icon.
Her first words were ‘Hi’ plain and simple, and being polite I replied ‘Hey’ back at her.
We talked about a lot of things. In fact she was the first girl on Tumblr that managed to hold my attention for that long. Before I knew it we started to have the longest conversations about movies, and food and a lot of other things. She was beyond amazing and sheepishly on the 3rd day of talking I realized that I didn’t even ask her name.
Her name was Mel, which coincidentally was my family nickname too.
She asked me if I had a girlfriend and I told her that I did. She told me that was too bad for her then and although I was already on the verge of a break up with my girl then, I didn’t tell her that.
Surprisingly she still talked to me after. For that I was glad, but at the back of my mind I knew that I didn’t want her to be dragged into the mess I was in. She deserved more and that was something I wasn’t so sure I could give. For some twisted reason though one of the messages didn’t come through and we stopped talking altogether.
I decided to go on Tumblr leave to try to detach myself from her. She was too good for me and I knew if I didn’t stop myself at that point eventually I’d fall for her. Before I left I decided to write her a message “I miss you even though I shouldn’t.” She replied to it saying that she wanted to talk to me too but she really didn’t know what to say. The moment I saw her message I knew I couldn’t leave. It almost tore me to pieces when I tried and so I decided to stay.
I broke up with my girlfriend a few days after. It was unfair for her anyway for me to stay even though I really have fallen out of love months even before Mel came along. It was a clean break so to say, and thankfully my ex easily came to terms.
Mel was surprised when I broke to her the news. I was officially single. She told me she wanted me to be hers but that she wanted to do it personally. I agreed and that was the start of the 3 month long wait.
I lived in the Philippines and she lived in Canada. With the time difference and our busy schedules we managed to talk for hours on Skype by staying up all night and texting on BBM almost 24/7.
She arrived here Jan 14, 2013 and I couldn’t be happier.
It was a rollercoaster of emotions when I met up with her for the first time the next day. My head was racing and my heart was pounding. I had a billion butterflies in my stomach and finally when I laid my eyes on her for the very first time I knew that I had made the right decision.
She introduced me to her family right away when she brought me home. Then she brought me to her room where she asked for me to be hers officially. To my surprise she also got down on one knee and asked for me to be her wife. I said yes to both.
2 days after we got together I came out to my parents. They were very supportive and all they wanted was to meet her. A week after, they finally did.
Her month long stay here was one of the best months of my life. We completed our bucket list, spent time together and just enjoyed each other’s company.
She left for Canada on the 16th of February and although it broke my heart to see her go, I insisted on being with her even until the very last second.
As of the moment we’re in a long distance relationship and despite the bad times, I can say those are still outnumbered by the good. It’ll take another year before she comes home and though it saddens me having this distance between us, I know there’s still no one else I’d rather be with but her.
Someday soon we’ll be together and we wouldn’t have to be apart. She’s my love, my life, my happiness and I can’t wait to be her wife.